As we go by life, we see people who are sad. Some may even take the time to wonder why. Very often, it is believed few matters just aren’t worth crying for, it is often that a build up of a bunch of feelings that lead to a most serious conclusion.
‘Thirteen Reasons Why’ is a bestselling novel by Jay Asher, which later was produced as a television series by Netflix. The story is about a girl who, post committing suicide, sends tapes to people who were involved in her decision to end her life. When we look at the story closely, there are a number of matters that may seem trivial when isolated. However, a bunch of these “insignificant” matters led a girl to commit suicide. Admittedly, this is a fictional story, but it has some bearing on real life.
People keep saying “you may not find this very serious “ when they talk about their “minor issues” to others. Why is it that sadness can only be caused by problems such as death or sickness? When did we start getting desensitised to people who are hurting while fighting with a friend or by losing a bracelet? Scrolling through social media, we see posts that encourage normalising a lot of things, let’s add being sad to the list.
It is alright to be sad over small things. Because only when you show that you are sad will you get help. It’s okay to be sad, whatever your reason may be. Understanding this is the first step towards mental wellbeing.
Think of it, a grain of salt. To you, it has no importance but a number of those grains can be the difference between a MasterChef-worthy meal and a meal from a failed restaurant. Even our planet is just a grain of salt in our galaxy. That doesn’t make you, me, or this planet unimportant, does it?
No matter how big or small you think your reason for being sad, it matters. It matters how you feel and what you feel!
“I think you’re overreacting” people say to their peers, friends, and children. I think that is unacceptable. There is no way to quantify emotional pain and to determine whether being sad is justified or not- this is not the Poverty Line!
Is there a list of issues that you are allowed to be sad about? I must’ve missed that memo.
It is so often forgotten that things affect each individual differently. An A- grade to one person could be a failure, but an achievement for another. No one but the individual should be allowed to decree how much something hurts.
‘’You’re a sensitive person” has started to become an insult. Why? When did being sensitive become a verbal slap in the face that insinuates one is not emotionally strong enough. Feeling things is not a sign of weakness. Crying over a friend’s quarrel does not make you weak.
2020 is a year of change- social, political, economic, you name it. Maybe it is time for 2020 to be the year of mental change too. Let’s all try to understand the human psyche better and not be dismissive of human emotions. Let’s form a pact to be understanding, accepting and supporting emotions regardless of whether we think they are “serious” or not. Let’s normalise having a bad day for no reason. Let’s normalise feeling differently. Let’s normalise being happy for no reason. Let’s normalise needing space. Let’s normalise conversation. Let’s encourage talking about feelings. Let’s normalise being sad.